Focusing on Fruit: Cultivating Healthy Kids

Often, parents are so focused on changing kids’s behaviors we forget that what we do grows out of who we are. If our primary focus is inspiring, influencing, and instilling healthy self-identities, then we are cultivating healthy children who will act the way they see themselves. The fruit of a plant is the natural product … Continue reading Focusing on Fruit: Cultivating Healthy Kids

An Approach to Changing Behavior

We have the following mindset and approach when we interact with our kids with the desire to change … {Clarification: When I speak of relationships and connection – I am not talking about the structure vs. relationship debate. They are both vital and important. The relationship is the foundation and the structure is the framework. … Continue reading An Approach to Changing Behavior

Enhancing Our Connection With Students As A Houseparent

As a Houseparent, how important is connecting (our relationship) with our kids? Does what a student think about us make a difference or can we do our job if they “hate” you? And how well are we at connecting with our kids? I think that sometimes we focus more on the “house” part of houseparenting … Continue reading Enhancing Our Connection With Students As A Houseparent

Guiding Students Towards Internal Motivation

Understanding Motivation ~ It’s ALL about relationships Your relationship with a student is the most important thing. You must make that connection a priority and protect it at all costs. It’s not our job to control our students. We can not control them. Our job is to teach them to control themselves. The goal is … Continue reading Guiding Students Towards Internal Motivation

Forgiven to Forgive

 “And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.” Matthew 6: 12 “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” Matthew 6:14-15 “If you forgive anyone’s … Continue reading Forgiven to Forgive

The Negative Consequences of Punishment

Wikipedia defines punishment as “the authoritative imposition of something negative or unpleasant on a person in response to behavior deemed wrong by an individual or group. ” The dictionary says it's “a penalty imposed on somebody for doing something wrong.” The common idea is that punishment is forced pain on someone who did something wrong … Continue reading The Negative Consequences of Punishment